What Not to Say & What to Say To Someone Suffering - MDD & GAD

“We must listen to understand, not to reply”

Words are powerful, they can heal and they can wound. Sometimes, even well intended communication can be hurtful. When it comes to communicating with a loved one suffering from depression and anxiety it can be hard to know what to say.  Most likely this loved one is extra sensitive which makes it a little more tricky.  In addition, this person may not even want to talk.  Yet, we all know how important communication is, so to talk to them, even if they don’t seem to be receptive!  Let them know you are there for them and how much you care for them!

In order to communicate well you must understand that depression is a physical illness and not something this person is choosing.  When you give suggestions, it may help to think of this person with another illness, one that you understand better, like diabetes.

Using open-ended questions or statements are helpful.  For instance, you might begin by saying, “I have been worried about you, tell me how you are feeling.”  or “I know you haven’t been feeling well, what are some of your concerns?”  Be patient and don’t give up, even if they push you away at first.  Your friend or family member is hurting, showing you care and want to help will go a long way in their recovery and in your relationship with them.

Here are things NOT to say:  (Below are things to say)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Say these things!

 

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